當孩子大時，父母要學會三個心

給聰明年長者幸福十誡

"Ten taboos to happiness " for the intelligent aged persons
一、不要再替成年子女操心，才不會碎碎唸。

Don't be concerned about adult children any more，otherwise， cannot
stop the annoying chatters.
二、不要再將成年子女當成未成年來「監護」，以免顧人怨。

Don't regard the adult children as of under age and serve as a
guardian for them， so to avoid incurring complaints.
三、不必事事都「非知道不可」，尊重已成年子女的隱私權、自主權。

No necessary to know everything， pay respect to the privacy and the
right of decision-making of adult children.
四、不要再以兒、孫為生活重心，尋找自己的園地，
才不致天天望穿秋水。

Don't regard children and grandchildren as a center of life， look
for personal social circles， so to avoid trapping yourself in the dilemma
of anxious expectation and disappointment daily.
五、不要逢人就訴苦，寧可寫作、畫畫、練功、唱歌，
以藝術、創作昇華情緒。

Raise a habit of writing， painting， exercising， singing to sublime
your mood by arts and creation rather than complain to people coming
across.
六、不要凡事抱怨，多欣賞、感謝別人為取悅你所做的努力。

More admiration， less complaints and appreciate what other people
have Done for pleasing you.
七、不要因孫輩和子女媳婿爭執衝突，這樣只會惡性循環，
害了你的孫輩。

Don't involve in the dispute between grandchildren and adult
children， this act just causes adverse effects in a bad circle and hurt
your grandchildren.
八、不要因病痛而唉唉叫，有病要治病，領了藥要服藥，
治不好的要忍耐。

Don't cry over sickness， just go to see a doctor and ta ke the
necessary medicalpills as prescribed， and be patient if failed to cure.
九、不要疑心病太重，要感激還願意留在你身邊的人，
免得最後連他也走了！

Don't be s ke ptical to others too much， be grateful to the person
who left around you， otherwise， he will go away from you too eventually.
十、要多多培養宗教情操，有堅定的信仰，
對未來抱著開心、樂觀的態度。

Participate in religious activities often， be stick to belief and ta
ke pleasant，optimistic attitudes toward the future.
如果以上十點，每一點是十分，祝福各位聰明的老人，都能幸福一百分。